Look at the books written about dealing with Fear:
Many good books about fear are written by women. There are many male authors writing about fear, but they are either: fiction thrillers, war stories, or dangerous occupation like fighter or handling heavy vehicles. The two male authors who wrote about the daily insecurities of life are spiritual teachers (the first two books above).
Women can get down to the intricate details of feelings, because more women tend to feel than think, while more men tend to think than feel (statistically speaking). Women get more exposure to multiple feelings, and fear is only just one of them. Men get through everyday life rationalizing many things that make them overlook feelings. Only when it gets accumulated and hit the ego, the feeling is rationalized again into producing faulty logic.
I’m not saying that women are better than men, because I’m an outlier woman (I tend to think than feel). However, more women acknowledge their feelings than men do.
Irrespective of our biological differences, all of us need to get down to being honest about our feelings (fear is one) and deal with their rawness instead of getting our thinking brain to quickly rationalize them away. By dealing with the rawness of fear, we can dig deeper and be more honest with our self.
Fear is necessary. It tells you what is challenging you, and by responding to challenges we can grow. Don’t stop before fear. Go after it, toward the other side. There lies an answer to your growth :) Look within to find the answer. Consult a friend, a coach, or a book to help you turn that answer into words.
Check out my previous articles about:
- What we can learn from kids about fear.
- What we can learn from cats about fear.
- What we can learn from a famous woman about fear.
- What we can learn from Buddhist monks about fear.
